Are you writing your own wedding vows?
You may have noticed how hard it can be to start from scratch.
You know how you feel, but you just don’t know how to put it into words.
Well, here’s your answer.
In today’s article we’re going to share with you a wedding vows template that will help you overcome your writer’s block.
Let’s get started.
A Quick Note
Make sure to check with your wedding officiant before finalizing your vows.
Some officiants do have limitations to what you can put in your vows, and some will only allow you to read specific vows.
Although this is rare, it is something that could happen so it’s best to talk it over with them before finalizing your wedding vows!
First Things First: Declare Your Love
There’s no need to wait, let your spouse know how you feel at the start of your vows!
Leading with this will make the rest of your statement all the better.
And you don’t have to worry about being over-the-top with your declaration either.
Just be yourself and let your spouse know how much they mean to you.
Here are a few tips for accomplishing this first step:
- Let them know who they are to you.
- I.e. “You are my rock”, “you are my closest friend”, etc.
- Share with them one of the reasons you love them.
- I.e. “You always know when to help me keep going”, “you’re always there when I need someone to lean on”
- Make your love known in your own personal way. This could be as simple as “I love you”, or you could express your love in your own personal way.
With the first step done, your vows could start off like this:
“Karen, you are my best friend. You have always been my biggest supporter and help me keep going even when times get tough. I love you.”
Include Specific Moments Of Your Relationship
This is where choosing a premade vow won’t help you, because you’ll want to make this part of your vows specific to your relationship.
Here are some questions to help you fill in this step of the template:
- Was there a hardship that you both overcame?
- How about a time you both will remember forever?
- Are you planning to move together?
Whatever the situation may be, make sure it is something the two of you experienced together.
Because even though you will be reading these in front of all of your friends and family, they are specifically written for your spouse.
So make them feel like they are the only one in the room.
Include The Promises You Intend To Keep
That’s what vows are, right?
Choose vows specific to your relationship, but don’t be afraid to add a little humor into the mix!
Some examples of promises that you can include (or work off of) are:
- I promise to live in truth with you
- I promise to share with you my patience
- I promise faithfulness
- I promise to take care of you
- I promise to always take out the trash/do the dishes/other funny vow
Remember, just like declaring your love, use your personality!
Share What You Want To Be In The Future
This is what you think “married” means to you in the future.
Of course, you can’t tell the future, but having a goal of what you will work towards is something that the two of you will be able to share together.
This looks different to everyone, but if you’ve talked it over with your spouse you should have a good idea of what you think this part should include.
A Couple Example Vows
We’ve shared with you the steps to creating the perfect wedding vows.
Now, here are some examples that put all of those steps together!
“Karen, you are my best friend. You have always been my biggest supporter and help me keep going even when times get tough. I love you. From our first date at the zoo until forever, I will always love you. I promise to always live in truth with you and to take out the trash the first time I’m asked. Here’s to our future!”
“My dearest love. You are my light in the dark. I have loved you ever since I’ve set my eyes on you, and I will love you forever. I promise to be there for you through every obstacle and every triumph. To us.”
Now, Get Writing!
There you have it.
Hopefully, this guide will help you get over your writer’s block and create vows that are true to you and your relationship.
Happy Writing!